tips on how to get along with people
为人之道

1. keep chains on your tongue; always say less than you think. cultivate a pleasant, persuasive voice. how you say it often counts more than what you say.

说话要谨慎；多想少说。说话要令人高兴，循循善诱。怎么说比说什么更重要。

2. make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully.
不轻易许诺；答应了的事就一定要做。

3. never let an opportunity pass to say a kind word to somebody. praise good work done, regardless of who did it.
切勿错过赞扬他人的机会。无论是谁做的工作，只要出色，就不要吝惜赞扬。

4. be genuinely interested in others. let everyone you meet feel that you regard him or her as a person of importance.
对人报以真诚的关注。让每个遇到你的人都感到他（她）是重要的。

5. be cheerful. keep the corners of your mouth turned up. hide your pains, worries, and disappointments under a smile.
精神饱满，嘴角上翘。将痛苦、忧愁与失望藏于微笑之下。

6. keep an open mind on all controversial questions. discuss without arguing. it is possible to disagree and yet be friendly.
对有争议的事不存偏见。讨论而不争吵。意见不同归不同，朋友还是朋友。

7. never engage in gossip. make it a rule to say nothing about another unless it is something good.
不听不传小道消息。订一条规矩，不背后说人，除非说好话。

8. be careful of other people’s feelings. a laugh at another’s expense is rarely worth the effort, and it may hurt where least expected.
体贴他人的感情。嘲笑他人会得不偿失，还可能造成意料不到的伤害。

9. pay no attention to cutting remarks that others may make about you. learn to live above such comments.
不要在意别人对你的尖刻评论。学会超脱。

10. don’t be too anxious about your rights and having favors repaid. let the satisfaction of helping others serve as its own best reward.
不急于求回报。把帮助他人而得到的欣慰作为其最好的回报。